Ummah Forum Interview


I don’t think I’ve ever written about it on here, but Ummah Forum has actually had a large part to play in the development of this blog. In fact, I think that if it weren’t for Ummah, this blog probably wouldn’t even exist! It was after posting on there for a while and reading a couple of the other users’ blogs that I decided to start one of my own. And the majority of the blog posts on here are things that I had written there and then just copied here; or are posts that were inspired from stuff that I’d read or conversations I’d had with users on there. It’s kind of like my home on the Internet: it’s always the first site I visit when I come online and I’m on there practically all the time. :o

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Anyways, I was recently interviewed by one of the other users there. I wanted to copy it here but it is reaaaallllyyy long, so you can just read it over there instead if you’re interested. Hopefully you’ll be able to benefit from some of the advices given.

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Live in the Dunya, Not for the Dunya

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 يَا أَيُّهَا الْإِنسَانُ مَا غَرَّكَ بِرَبِّكَ الْكَرِيمِ

O human being, what has deceived you concerning your Lord, the Generous?

(al-Infitaar: 6)

What is it that deceives us?

It’s the life of this world.

How do we know whether we’ve been deceived or not?  

Through self-reflection, by pondering on the major decisions we make in life. If we’re motivated purely by worldly desires and ignore what Allah ta’ala wants and commands, then we’ve been deceived.

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If we have been deceived, how do we break free and correct the situation?

By reflecting on the shortness of this worldly life. When we look back on it in the akhirah, it will be like a single day, or a part of a day, or just a single hour. So why bother putting so much effort into it if it’s all just going to vanish?

 What should the end result of this exercise be?

That we live in the dunya, not for the dunya. The akhirah becomes our main concern and the thing we strive for, not this temporary ephemeral world; and that we actually mean the claim we make when we say in salah, “Indeed, my prayer and my sacrifice, my life and my death, are for the Lord of all the worlds.

And Allah ta’ala knows best.

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Don’t Say “In-sha Allah”!?


حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ وَزُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ جَمِيعًا عَنْ ابْنِ عُلَيَّةَ قَالَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَعِيلُ ابْنُ عُلَيَّةَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ بْنِ صُهَيْبٍ عَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا دَعَا أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَعْزِمْ فِي الدُّعَاءِ وَلَا يَقُلْ اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ شِئْتَ فَأَعْطِنِي فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا مُسْتَكْرِهَ لَهُ

Anas bin Malik narrated, “The Messenger of Allah  said, When one of you makes dua, he should be firm in his supplication and should not say, “O Allah, if You wish then grant me (my request),” for indeed, there is none who can compel Him.’

(Sahih Muslim)

This hadith is recorded by Imam Muslim in his Sahih, and he in fact has a whole chapter in his book dedicated to this topic. It indicates towards one of the etiquettes of making dua, which is to have a firm resolve when doing so and to have full trust in Allah ta’ala that He will grant us our request. It teaches us that it is disliked to say things like “In-sha Allah” when making dua. Instead we should rather say “Ameen“.

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People making dua and then saying “In-sha Allah” is not something that I can recall happening much in the past, but recently I have noticed it increasing markedly and happening very often, so much so that it’s become quite commonplace. Some people even say both “In-sha Allah” and “Ameen“. It might seem like the natural thing to say, since it is something related to a future occurrence, but from ahadith such as the above we learn that it is not correct to do so. What is worrying about all this, and what has driven me to make this post, is that I’ve seen even ‘ulama, shuyookh and khutaba’ doing this. They are the ones who should know better and if they practice it, then naturally other people too will begin to regard it as acceptable and might even think that it is the proper way of doing things!

May Allah ta’ala grant us all the tawfeeq to implement the guidance of the Prophet  and call upon Him in the proper manner, in-sha Allah Ameen.  

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An Inspiration – Alhamdoulilah



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لَقَدْ كَانَ فِي قَصَصِهِمْ عِبْرَةٌ لِّأُولِي الْأَلْبَابِ

There was certainly in their stories a lesson for those of understanding.

(Yusuf: 111)

Why do we read about and study the lives of the Prophets ‘alaihimus salaam and the lives of our pious predecessors? The ayah above gives the answer to that. It’s not just for entertainment or as a story, but rather we are supposed to take lessons from it. We are supposed to be inspired by them to try and follow in their footsteps, to try and be like them. But I think an obstacle that we might face in trying to do so is that it could at times be difficult to relate their reality. They lived thousands of years before us and the world back then was a very different place to what it is now. The reality of the situation we find ourselves in is not the same as theirs. That’s why I feel that stories of a contemporary nature, of people living in our day and age, can be quite effective in serving as an inspiration for us, as we can better relate to it. And in this post, I’d like to share one such narration.

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Don’t Use Facebook to Commit Zina!


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عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَال كُلُّ عَيْنٍ زَانِيَةٌ وَالْمَرْأَةُ إِذَا اسْتَعْطَرَتْ فَمَرَّتْ بِالْمَجْلِسِ فَهِيَ كَذَا وَكَذَا يَعْنِي زَانِيَةً

The Prophet sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “Every eye [which casts lustful glances] is a zaaniyah (fornicator).  And when a woman puts on perfume and then passes by a gathering, then she is such-and-such” i.e. a zaaniyah.

(Sunan Tirmidhi)

Another narration of this hadith is related by Abu Dawud, with a slightly different wording. The explanation of these two ahadith, from the texts Tuhfadhul Ahwadhi and ‘Awn al-Ma’bood, clarifies a few things. Those of you who can understand Arabic, please click on the links provided so you can check it for yourself.

  • The eye which is a zaaniyah is the one which looks at a non-mahram woman with lust and desire;
  • The type of perfume is one where its smell is readily apparent and obvious;
  • The gathering she passes by is a gathering of men;
  • The narration of Abu Dawud has the wording, “in order that they might smell her scent“. This makes it clear as to what motivates her to do this and what her intention is – she wants men to notice her;
  • Such a woman is regarded as a zaaniyah because she aroused the desire of the men, and prompted them to look at her. And each one of them who looks at her, commits zina with his eyes. She is the cause of this zina of the eyes, and therefore she is sinful and regarded as a zaaniyah.

From reading the hadith alone, it might seem to be blaming women only, but when read with its explanation it’s clear that this isn’t the case. The men too are at fault: they are commanded in the Qur’an to lower their gaze and in failing to do so, they commit zina of the eyes and thus are sinful. The woman, by doing what she did, is the cause of that sin happening, and so she too is sinful. The situation is worse for the woman however. Each of the men would only be sinning once. But if the gathering numbered ten men for example, then the sin she would be getting is tenfold that of the men, once for each person who looks at her (and Allah knows best)!

From the explanation given it also seems to me, and Allah knows best, that this scenario need not only apply to the case of a perfumed woman. For example, if in place of putting on perfume she wears a mini-skirt instead and then walks by a group of men, the same thing would play out. The desire of the men would be aroused, they would commit the sin of zina of the eyes, and thus she would be regarded as a zaaniyah, due to being the cause of that. Or if she were to take pictures of herself in which her ‘awrah is uncovered, and then make it available for other people to view, the same thing would apply again.

And how many times don’t we find that happening, especially on sites such as Facebook? How many Muslimahs aren’t there on there, with pictures of themselves in which they are not covered properly? And how many male Muslims aren’t there, who fall into the sin of zina of the eyes by looking at such pictures?

Someone once asked me if I have a problem with Facebook. I do. And it’s because of exactly all of this. It has snatched the veil of modesty away from us and caused behaviour which normally would be regarded as unacceptable, to become commonplace. The sinfulness is so prevalent and widespread that we don’t even think of it as being a big deal anymore, we just accept the situation as it is. There are some women who wouldn’t go outside dressed improperly but don’t seem to have a problem uploading such improper pictures. Just because it is the virtual world, doesn’t make it OK.

For the female Muslims: don’t use Facebook to commit zina! Don’t upload any pictures of yourself in which you are not covered properly, regardless of whether or not your intention is to attract the attention of men. This act is far more dangerous than that of the woman described in the hadith, because in that scenario there is only a limited amount of people in that gathering who would see her. But on the internet!? There are literally millions and millions of people who could potentially commit this sin with you, and on account of which you would be gaining sins. Wallahul musta’an!

For the male Muslims: don’t use Facebook to commit zina! Don’t go on there to look at pictures of non-mahram women. And it’s bad enough committing this sin of zina of the eyes when it is with a kaafir woman; it’s so much more worse when it’s done with a Muslim woman – since she is your sister in faith. At least desist from that, if you cannot desist from it altogether.

If any of us may have been guilty of the above in the past, then it is necessary to make tawbah for that and turn to Allah in sincere repentance. But there are three conditions attached to tawbah:

  1. One should desist from the sin. For example, one cannot ask for forgiveness for having uploaded pictures she shouldn’t have while still leaving them up there for all to view. They need to be deleted.
  2. One should feel remorse and regret for having committed the sin.
  3. One should make a firm determination not to return to the sin. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you will never slip back into the sin in the future. What it does mean is that you should sincerely want to not return to it. Should it happen that you do fall back into it, you should make tawbah once again, and maintain your hope in the Most Merciful. This should be repeated each and every time you return to the sin.

May Allah ta’ala have mercy on us all, forgive us all of our sins, avert from us evil and sinful behaviour, make it easy for us to resist all the temptations that surround us, and grant us to turn to Him in sincere repentance.

قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسهمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَحْمَة اللَّه إِنَّ اللَّه يَغْفِر الذُّنُوب جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُور الرَّحِيم

Say, ‘O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the Mercy of Allah; indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.’”
(al-Zumar: 53)

نَبِّئْ عِبَادِي أَنِّي أَنَا الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ وَأَنَّ عَذَابِي هُوَ الْعَذَابُ الْأَلِيمُ

Inform my slaves that I, I am the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful; and that My punishment is the painful punishment.
(al-Hijr: 49 – 50)

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وَمَا أُبَرِّئُ نَفْسِي ۚ إِنَّ النَّفْسَ لَأَمَّارَةٌ بِالسُّوءِ إِلَّا مَا رَحِمَ رَبِّي ۚ إِنَّ رَبِّي غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

And I do not absolve my inner self of blame. Surely, man‘s inner self often incites to evil, unless my Lord shows mercy.
Certainly, my Lord is the Most-Forgiving, Very-Merciful.
(Yusuf: 53)

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Disclaimer: before anyone responds with all the benefits of Facebook and all the good things that it can be used to achieve, please read the article carefully. It is not saying “Don’t use Facebook!” or “Facebook is haram!” or “All Facebook users are sinful!“. It is simply saying not to use it for wrong things and to engage in acts which Allah ta’ala has prohibited.

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Where Then Are You Headed?

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A quick summary, for anyone who can’t be bothered to listen to all that:

 فَأَيْنَ تَذْهَبُونَ

Where then are you headed?

(al-Takwir: 26)

Each day that passes us by is one step closer to the edge, one step closer to our final destination: either Paradise or the Hellfire. Where we end up is up to us. So how do we ensure that we reach our goal of attaining entry to Jannah?

There are two things required for this:

قضاء الفرائض واجتناب الكبائر

Carrying out the faraa’id (obligatory acts)

and abstaining from the kabaa’ir (major sins). 

  • For the faraa’id, the most important one to uphold is the salah.
  • For the kabaa’ir, the most important one to beware is zina.

This does not mean that we disregard saghaa’ir (minor sins), since a mountain is made up of tiny pebbles. Of them, the most important one to guard against is not wearing the hijab, as one who fails to do so can very quickly pile up a mountain of sins.

And Allah ta’ala knows best.

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We Will Never Forget…

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The Advice of the Best of Creation – Part II

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 نصيحة خير الأنام لأصحابه الكرام

  The Advice of

the Best of Creation

to His Noble Companions 

-Part II-

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Sunan For Married Couples

Getting married is one of the great Sunnahs of Rasulullah (saw). However, it recently struck me that not just is it a sunnah in itself, but also that it opens up the door to many others as well. There are many other sunan which only married people can act on, and which single people are deprived of. Below are just a few of them.

May Allah ta’ala grant all married people, by virtue of acting on these things, a blissful, loving and lasting relationship; and may He make it easy for all of us singletons to get married, so that we can implement them as well.

(Note: don’t forget to read the ahadith at the end. That’s the most important part!)

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1) Greet her.

2) Convey salams to her from others.

3) Smile at her.

4) Make dua for her.

5) Honour her friends, even after her death. Send them food from a sacrifice.

6) Eat from the same plate.

7) Drink from the same place where she places her mouth, and eat from the same place where she places her mouth.

8 ) Put a morsel of food in her mouth.

9) Let her comb your hair.

10) Recite Qur’an, while resting your head in her lap.

11) Take a ghusl with her from a single container.

12) Teach and advise her in a gentle manner.

13) Go racing with her and let her win. Later, when she puts on weight, race with her again and beat her.

14) Call her by an endearing nickname.

15) Wipe away her tears.

16) Heed her advice.

17) Take her with you on long journeys. If you have more than one wife, let them cast lots to decide who gets to go.

18) Spend time with her in entertainment, and stay with her until she is satisfied.

19) Let her spend time with her friends.

20) Give her time to adorn herself before going to her for intimacy.

21) Do not go to her in the manner of animals.

22) Make this dua before being intimate with her: Bismillah. Allahumma jannibnash shaitaan, wa jannibish shaitaana maa razaqtanaa.

23) Wake her up to make salah at night. If she doesn’t get up, sprinkle water on her face.

Specifically on the wedding night

24) Let her pray two raka’at salah behind you and then make this dua: Allahumma baarik lee fee ahlee wa baarik lahum fiyya. Allahummarzuqhum minnee warzuqnee minhum. Allahummajma’ bainanaa maa jama’ta ilaa khairin, wa farriq bainanaa idhaa farraqta ilaa khairin.

25) Place your hands on her head and make this dua: Allahumma innee as-aluka khairahaa wa khaira maa jabaltahaa ‘alaih; wa a’oodhu bika min sharrihaa wa min sharri maa jabaltahaa ‘alaih.

26) Give her some milk to drink.

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That is Jesus, the Son of Mary

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